When we tell people we sleep in separate rooms, people assume there’s trouble in the marriage. I will be the first to admit marriage isn’t easy. I have been with my husband for 17 years and we have had many ups and downs, all relationships do. A few weeks ago we hit a road block in our marriage, things were not looking good. I decided I needed my space and left my husband’s bedroom. You see I work out of the home and my husband is disabled. We are with each other 24/7 neither one of us really had our own space.
My husband and I both grew very dependent on one another. I felt as if all the responsibility was being placed on me when it came to household chores. Now we all have to play our part. If he wants a clean room, he is in charge of cleaning it. If he wants clean clothes he is in charge of washing them.
In bed with my husband I had a very hard time sleeping. Yes, I miss his warmth at night, yes I miss touching him when I am sleeping. What I don’t miss, if not getting enough sleep. I was waking up several times a night because my husband gets up a lot. He is in and out of bed, in and out of the bedroom, so we slept with the closet light on, again effecting my sleep.
Since moving out of his room and into my own, I actually get the sleep I need. I wake up happier and ready to tackle the day. I no longer worry about the room being cleaned or if he has clean clothes, that is his responsibility. We both talk more and fight less. Being in our own rooms has brought us closer together. We have tried sleeping together again and it doesn’t work for either one of us.
Switching rooms has been one of the best things that could have happened to either one of us, because we both are not only getting better sleep but have or own space to just relax and some of the responsibilities have been lifted off me and I cannot be happier.
Do you and your husband share the same room or do you both have different rooms? Has it helped or hurt your marriage?
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